One day during an evening class for adults, the psychology Teacher entered the class and told students, “Let’s all play a game.” “What game?”
The teacher asked one of the students to volunteer. A lady Aliza came forward. The teacher asked her to write 30 names of the most important people in her life on the blackboard.
Aliza wrote names of the family members, relatives, friends, her colleagues and her neighbors.
The teacher told her to erase 3 names that Aliza considered most unimportant. Aliza erased names of her colleagues. The teacher again told her to erase 5 more names. Aliza erased her neighbor’s names. This went on until there were just four names left on the blackboard. These were the name of her mother, father, husband and only son.
The entire class became silent realizing that this wasn’t a game anymore for Aliza alone. Now the teacher told her to delete two more names.
It was a very difficult choice for Aliza. She unwillingly erased her parents’ names.
“Please erase one more,” said the teacher.
Aliza became very nerves and with trembling hands and tears in eyes, she deleted her son’s name. Aliza cried painfully.
The teacher told Aliza to take her seat. After a while teacher asked “why your husband? The parents are the ones that nurtured you and the son is the one you gave birth to? And you can always find another husband!
Total silence in the class. Everyone was curious to know her response.
Aliza calmly and slowly said, “one day my parents will pass away before me. My son may also leave me when he grows old, for his studies or business or whatever reason. The only one who will truly share his entire life with me is my husband.”
Often we are stuck in life upon taking important decisions. This story instigates the process of prioritizing. If you know your priority, you will easily be able to take decisions accordingly. Prioritizing is important not only in personal life but very much in our professional life too. And when I say give priority to someone who really matters do not mean snubbing everyone around. It means when you are really in predicament, and finding your way out priority setting helps.
(I would love to hear your opinion in the comment section below.)